Why We Explain Others Through Their Character And Never Ourselves

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Think of the last person who really annoyed you. Maybe someone who didn’t keep a promise. Or the driver who cut you off. Or a friend who hasn’t been in touch for weeks.

What was your first thought about that person? It probably went straight to them, not to whatever might be going on in their life. Something like: typical, inconsiderate, she only gets in touch when she needs something. And it didn’t feel like a judgment, it felt like an observation. As if you’d simply seen who that person really is.

Now the uncomfortable question: when did you last do something like that yourself? Forgot a promise, cut someone off, didn’t get in touch for weeks, and explained it through your character?

Probably never. You had a reason. You were stressed, you’d missed the message, the day was just too much. The others simply don’t know the context. And that’s not a coincidence, it’s a mechanism, and it’s running right now, while you read this.

What the Brain Does Automatically

In the 1970s, the psychologist Lee Ross gave this phenomenon a name: the fundamental attribution error. The principle is simple, its consequences are not. When we explain other people’s behavior, we almost always reach for their character. When it comes to our own behavior, we reach for the situation.

He’s late, so he’s unreliable. You’re late because the traffic was terrible. She doesn’t answer the email because she’s not interested. You don’t answer because you had a hard day. The same action, two completely different explanations, depending on who’s doing it.

The brain doesn’t do this out of malice, but because it’s efficient. We only see other people’s behavior, not their inner world, not the context, not the story that came before. So we fill the gap with what’s closest at hand, which is character. With ourselves, we know the whole backstory. With others, we only see the last moment.

The Experiment That Turns Everything Upside Down

In 1967, psychologists Edward Jones and Victor Harris ran an experiment that remains uncomfortably convincing today.

Participants read texts in which students took a clear political stance, for or against Fidel Castro. They were then asked to judge what the author really thought.

One group was told the authors had freely chosen their position. The result was predictable: whoever wrote in favor of Castro was judged to be a Castro supporter. The second group was told the authors had been assigned their position by a coin toss, meaning they’d had no choice at all. And yet this group, too, attributed a matching conviction to those who had written a pro-Castro text.

The brain knows the person had no choice, and judges anyway. The mechanism runs regardless of what you rationally know. It has nothing to do with stupidity, and everything to do with how we’re built.

The Twin of the Error: The Actor-Observer Effect

The fundamental attribution error has a close relative that’s even less well known, and hits even closer to home.

In 1971, Jones and Nisbett described what they called the actor-observer effect. People explain their own behavior through the situation, while explaining other people’s behavior through their personality. That much was already known.

It got interesting when researchers looked at what happens when you literally flip the perspective. In a 1973 experiment by Storms, conversations between two people were recorded on video. One group watched the recording from their own perspective, the way they’d experienced the conversation. Another group watched the same scene from the other person’s perspective.

The result was striking. When observers saw a recording from the actor’s perspective, the usual patterns of judgment reversed. Whoever suddenly saw the world through the other person’s eyes judged their character less and the situation more. So the problem isn’t who we are, it’s what we see. And what we see depends on where we stand.

What the Brain Originally Wanted With This

This mechanism didn’t appear by chance, it served an evolutionary purpose.

In a world where survival depended on the group, it mattered to quickly judge who could be trusted and who posed a danger. Those judgments had to be fast, without long deliberation, without weighing every circumstance. Character as an explanation is a cognitive shortcut that could genuinely save lives in dangerous environments.

The trouble is that the same brain now sits in offices, in meetings, in Slack channels, and keeps judging in milliseconds. About the colleague who didn’t reply. About the manager who made a decision. About the new person on the team who was quiet in the first meeting. The environment has changed completely, the mechanism behind it hasn’t.

Whether This Error Is Truly Universal

For a long time, the fundamental attribution error was considered a human constant. Everyone makes it, everywhere, always. Then came the cross-cultural comparisons, and the picture got more complicated.

People from individualistic cultures lean more toward explaining others’ behavior through their character. People from collectivistic cultures more often prefer situational explanations. In 1984, the psychologist Joan Miller studied how adults and children in the USA and in India explain the behavior of others. The American participants used character-based explanations far more often, while the Indian ones leaned more toward situational reasons for the same behavior. When Miller then gave some of the situations described by Indian participants to American participants, the difference held: the Americans still found internal causes for behavior the Indians had explained situationally.

That’s uncomfortable, because it shows the error isn’t fully rooted in human nature. It’s largely cultural. In Western societies, where the individual stands at the center, we learn early to understand people through their traits, and lose sight of the situation in the process. But what was learned can also be unlearned.

Where This Plays Into Everything

In relationships, in teams, in families. Really anywhere people deal with each other without knowing the other’s full context.

The colleague who’s been quiet in meetings for weeks is seen as disengaged, and nobody asks whether he’s going through something. The friend who doesn’t reply is seen as cold, when in fact she’s barely sleeping. The partner who snaps is seen as difficult, and nobody sees the pressure he’s under.

Imagine a colleague handing off a project without properly transferring it. No documentation, no briefing, just gone. The team’s reaction comes fast: she’s superficial, she doesn’t think about others, that’s always been her way. What nobody knows: she was pulled into another project on two weeks’ notice, had no time, tried to write down the most important things, and it still wasn’t enough. She’s ashamed of it.

The more unfamiliar or unlikeable someone is to us, the stronger the fundamental attribution error shows its effect. Precisely where trust hasn’t been built yet, or tensions already exist, we judge the hardest and the least accurately. Out of this come judgments that are rarely spoken aloud but shape relationships for a long time. Someone gets labeled difficult before anyone has asked what’s actually going on. Conflicts harden because both sides are convinced they’re reading the other correctly, even though both are off. Eventually people just work alongside each other rather than with each other, not because they don’t fit together, but because nobody ever saw the other’s situation.

What Can Be Changed

The part most people don’t expect: the error can be softened.

In research, participants who completed a brief perspective-taking exercise before a judgment task showed a clear reduction in the fundamental attribution error compared to a control group. You don’t need boundless understanding for that. Often a single question is enough to interrupt the automatic judgment: what might be going on in this person right now that I can’t see? That’s not an excuse for everything, just a brief moment where you stop mistaking the last scene for the whole story.

The Last Scene Isn’t the Whole Story – An Exercise to Close

Take ten minutes and a pen. Three steps.

Looking at others. Think of someone whose behavior has bothered you lately, at work or privately. Write down how you explained it to yourself. Then write down at least three possible situations that could explain the behavior without it having anything to do with their character. What’s left of your original judgment afterward?

Looking at yourself. Think of a situation where you came across badly. What context was behind it that others didn’t see? And did you explain it, or did you assume the others would understand anyway?

The perspective shift. Think of someone you’re finding it hard to work with or be close to right now. Write one sentence about how you’ve explained their behavior so far. Then write a second one that starts with: “Maybe they’re in a situation right now where…” That sentence changes nothing about reality, but it changes how you walk into the next conversation.

Sources

Jones, E. E. & Harris, V. A. (1967). The attribution of attitudes. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 3(1), 1–24.

Ross, L. (1977). The intuitive psychologist and his shortcomings: Distortions in the attribution process. Advances in Experimental Social Psychology, 10, 173–220.

Jones, E. E. & Nisbett, R. E. (1971). The actor and the observer: Divergent perceptions of the causes of behavior. General Learning Press.

Nisbett, R. E., Caputo, C., Legant, P. & Marecek, J. (1973). Behavior as seen by the actor and as seen by the observer. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 27(2), 154–164.

Miller, J. G. (1984). Culture and the development of everyday social explanation. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 46(5), 961–978.

Hooper, N., Erdogan, A., Keen, G., Lawton, K. & McHugh, L. (2015). Perspective taking reduces the fundamental attribution error. Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science, 4(2), 69–72.

Gilbert, D. T. & Malone, P. S. (1995). The correspondence bias. Psychological Bulletin, 117(1), 21–38.

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Date of last update: 20.05.2025

1. Service description
Mindvise provides a digital platform that gives company employees access to online psychological counseling by qualified, freelance psychologists. The psychologists act independently and determine the content of the consultations themselves.

2. Qualification of consultants
All consultants working on the platform have at least a degree in psychology (Master of Science or diploma). Their suitability is checked by Mindvise before they start working.

3. Confidentiality
All contents of the counseling sessions are subject to confidentiality. Personal information will not be passed on to third parties, in particular to the employer, except in the case of express consent or legal obligation.

4. Disclaimer
Use of the platform is voluntary and at your own risk. Psychological counseling is not a substitute for medical or psychotherapeutic treatment. Mindvise accepts no liability for direct or indirect consequences arising from the use of counseling services.

5. Code of conduct
Respectful, professional interaction is a prerequisite. Discrimination, insults or behavior that violates boundaries will not be tolerated. The advisors are entitled to terminate conversations in the event of inappropriate behavior.

6. Cancellation policy
Consultation appointments must be canceled at least 12 hours before the start. If an appointment is canceled later, up to 80% of the fee can be claimed as expenses, depending on the employer’s regulations.

7. Restrictions on use
Use is not suitable if:

* You are in an acute mental health crisis or emergency. In such cases, please contact the medical on-call service (116117) or the emergency number 112.
* You have a serious mental illness that requires continuous specialist care.
* You are a minor and do not have the consent of your legal guardian.

If you are currently undergoing psychotherapeutic treatment, we recommend that you consult with your treating specialist before using the platform.

8. Consent to data processing
By using the platform, you agree to the terms of use and the privacy policy. You agree that your voluntarily submitted information on mental stress may be processed by Mindvise (including health data in accordance with Art. 9 GDPR). This consent is voluntary and can be revoked at any time.

If you have any questions or concerns, please contact:
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1. General information on data protection

Thank you for using our services. The protection of your personal data is important to us. This privacy policy explains how we process personal data, when you use our services. We only collect the data that is necessary for the use of our platform, and do not pass it on to third parties without your consent.

2. Person responsible for data processing

Responsible within the meaning of the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR):

Mindvise
Pascal Seitz
Lamprecht Str. 51
63739 Aschaffenburg, Germany

Phone: 01579-2526192
E-mail: kontakt@mindvise.de
Website: https://mental.mindvise.de

3. Collection and use of personal data

We only collect the data provided by you (first name, e-mail address, telephone number, business code, consultation topic, additional information transmitted on the consultation request) that was transmitted when booking consultation appointments. This data is stored on our server for 30 days and then backed up locally for 12 months. Our freelance consultants receive your data when an appointment is booked and also store it locally for a maximum of 12 months. For service agreements with a limit on monthly consultations per employee, the data is used to monitor compliance with the set limits.

4. Booking via hotline

As an alternative to online booking, you have the option of booking appointments via the hotline listed above so that you do not have to enter any data via the booking system.

5. Voluntariness of use

Use of the advisory services via the platform is voluntary. There are no disadvantages if you do not wish to take advantage of the offer.

6. Legal basis of the processing

Your data is processed on the following legal bases:

  • Consent (Art. 6 para. 1 lit. a GDPR): Your voluntary consent when providing the data for booking appointments.
  • Fulfillment of a contract (Art. 6 para. 1 lit. b GDPR): Processing of data for the provision of our services.
  • Protection of legitimate interests (Art. 6 para. 1 lit. f GDPR): Data processing is carried out in the interest of the smooth operation of our services, provided that no interests of the data subject worthy of protection prevail.

7. Processing of special categories of data

As part of the consultation, information may be processed that allows conclusions to be drawn about your mental health (e.g. through free text information on stress or concerns). This data is considered special categories of personal data within the meaning of Art. 9 GDPR. The processing takes place exclusively with your express consent in accordance with Art. 9 para. 2 lit. a GDPR. This consent is voluntary and can be revoked at any time.

8. Video communication

For video communication, we recommend using Jitsi Meet on our server at https://meet.mindvise.de. Advisors are free to decide whether to use this server or choose an alternative platform, which will be communicated to you in advance by e-mail. In this case, the data protection provisions of the chosen provider apply. If you do not wish to use an alternative provider as a video communication tool, you can communicate this by sending an e-mail to the selected consultant in advance. When using the Mindvise-hosted Jitsi Meet instance, personal data such as IP addresses may be collected. This data is used exclusively to enable communication and is not passed on to third parties.

9. Mental Health Assistent (ChatGPT API)

When using the digital mental health assistant, your voluntary free text entries can be transmitted to the OpenAI API for processing. The processing is pseudonymized (without direct name or identity assignment) and exclusively for the provision of the assistant function. The transfer is secured by the conclusion of standard contractual clauses in accordance with Art. 46 GDPR and OpenAI’s participation in the EU-U.S. Data Privacy Framework.

10. Technical and organizational measures (TOMs)

We have implemented the following measures to ensure the protection of your data:

  • Access control: The servers are provided by ISO-certified providers (Netcup, Alfahosting).
  • Access control: Access is only granted via password-protected systems with strict password guidelines.
  • Encryption and data backup: All data transmissions are SSL-encrypted. Data is deleted every 30 days and backed up locally.
  • Forwarding control: Encrypted communication channels (e-mail, SSL) are used.
  • Separation control: Logical separation of test and production data.
  • Integrity control: Regular backups and version controls ensure data integrity.
  • Roles and rights system: Administrative access is restricted; there is no access to personal content.

11 Rights of the data subjects

You have the right, to request information about the personal data stored about you at any time and to request the correction, deletion or restriction of the processing of this data. You also have the right to data portability and the right to object. You can withdraw your consent to the processing of personal data at any time.

12. Right to erasure (“right to be forgotten”)

You have the right to request the deletion of your personal data if:

  • the data is no longer required for the original purpose;
  • You withdraw your consent and there is no other legal basis for processing;
  • You object to the processing and there are no overriding legitimate grounds;
  • the data was processed unlawfully;
  • the deletion is necessary to fulfill a legal obligation.

13. Right to lodge a complaint with the supervisory authority

If you believe that the processing of your data violates the GDPR, you have the right to lodge a complaint with the competent data protection authority:

The Bavarian State Commissioner for Data Protection
P.O. Box 22 12 19, 80502 Munich
E-mail: poststelle@datenschutz-bayern.de

14. Duration of data storage

Personal data is stored on our server for a maximum of 30 days. At the end of this period, the data is deleted and backed up locally. Freelance consultants store the data locally for up to 12 months and then delete it permanently.

15. Data transfer to third parties and third countries

We do not pass on personal data to third parties without your consent. Personal data is only transferred to third countries in the context of using the Mental Health Assistant. In this case, the transfer is secured by OpenAI’s participation in the EU-U.S. Data Privacy Framework and by standard contractual clauses (SCCs) in accordance with Art. 46 GDPR.

16. Cookies and similar technologies

We only use technically necessary cookies on our website to enable you to make optimum use of our services. Analytical or marketing cookies are not used.

17. Automated decision-making including profiling

There is no automated decision-making or profiling within the meaning of Art. 22 GDPR.

18. Further processing for other purposes

Further processing of the personal data collected for other purposes is not planned. Should this become necessary in the future, you will be informed accordingly prior to such further processing.

19. Time of provision of the information

This information is provided to you at the latest at the time of data collection and within one month of the data being collected.

20. Adjustments to this privacy policy

We reserve the right to amend this privacy policy if necessary, to comply with legal requirements or to reflect changes to our services.

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Terms of use

Terms of use for the use of the Mindvise platform for online psychological counseling

Date of last update: 20.05.2025

1. Service description
Mindvise provides a digital platform that gives company employees access to online psychological counseling by qualified, freelance psychologists. The psychologists act independently and determine the content of the consultations themselves.

2. Qualification of consultants
All consultants working on the platform have at least a degree in psychology (Master of Science or diploma). Their suitability is checked by Mindvise before they start working.

3. Confidentiality
All contents of the counseling sessions are subject to confidentiality. Personal information will not be passed on to third parties, in particular to the employer, except in the case of express consent or legal obligation.

4. Disclaimer
Use of the platform is voluntary and at your own risk. Psychological counseling is not a substitute for medical or psychotherapeutic treatment. Mindvise accepts no liability for direct or indirect consequences arising from the use of counseling services.

5. Code of conduct
Respectful, professional interaction is a prerequisite. Discrimination, insults or behavior that violates boundaries will not be tolerated. The advisors are entitled to terminate conversations in the event of inappropriate behavior.

6. Cancellation policy
Consultation appointments must be canceled at least 12 hours before the start. If an appointment is canceled later, up to 80% of the fee can be claimed as expenses, depending on the employer’s regulations.

7. Restrictions on use
Use is not suitable if:

* You are in an acute mental health crisis or emergency. In such cases, please contact the medical on-call service (116117) or the emergency number 112.
* You have a serious mental illness that requires continuous specialist care.
* You are a minor and do not have the consent of your legal guardian.

If you are currently undergoing psychotherapeutic treatment, we recommend that you consult with your treating specialist before using the platform.

8. Consent to data processing
By using the platform, you agree to the terms of use and the privacy policy. You agree that your voluntarily submitted information on mental stress may be processed by Mindvise (including health data in accordance with Art. 9 GDPR). This consent is voluntary and can be revoked at any time.

If you have any questions or concerns, please contact:
[kontakt@mindvise.de](mailto:kontakt@mindvise.de)

Privacy policy

1. General information on data protection

Thank you for using our services. The protection of your personal data is important to us. This privacy policy explains how we process personal data, when you use our services. We only collect the data that is necessary for the use of our platform, and do not pass it on to third parties without your consent.

2. Person responsible for data processing

Responsible within the meaning of the General Data Protection Regulation (GDPR):

Mindvise
Pascal Seitz
Lamprecht Str. 51
63739 Aschaffenburg, Germany

Phone: 01579-2526192
E-mail: kontakt@mindvise.de
Website: https://mental.mindvise.de

3. Collection and use of personal data

We only collect the data provided by you (first name, e-mail address, telephone number, business code, consultation topic, additional information transmitted on the consultation request) that was transmitted when booking consultation appointments. This data is stored on our server for 30 days and then backed up locally for 12 months. Our freelance consultants receive your data when an appointment is booked and also store it locally for a maximum of 12 months. For service agreements with a limit on monthly consultations per employee, the data is used to monitor compliance with the set limits.

4. Booking via hotline

As an alternative to online booking, you have the option of booking appointments via the hotline listed above so that you do not have to enter any data via the booking system.

5. Voluntariness of use

Use of the advisory services via the platform is voluntary. There are no disadvantages if you do not wish to take advantage of the offer.

6. Legal basis of the processing

Your data is processed on the following legal bases:

  • Consent (Art. 6 para. 1 lit. a GDPR): Your voluntary consent when providing the data for booking appointments.
  • Fulfillment of a contract (Art. 6 para. 1 lit. b GDPR): Processing of data for the provision of our services.
  • Protection of legitimate interests (Art. 6 para. 1 lit. f GDPR): Data processing is carried out in the interest of the smooth operation of our services, provided that no interests of the data subject worthy of protection prevail.

7. Processing of special categories of data

As part of the consultation, information may be processed that allows conclusions to be drawn about your mental health (e.g. through free text information on stress or concerns). This data is considered special categories of personal data within the meaning of Art. 9 GDPR. The processing takes place exclusively with your express consent in accordance with Art. 9 para. 2 lit. a GDPR. This consent is voluntary and can be revoked at any time.

8. Video communication

For video communication, we recommend using Jitsi Meet on our server at https://meet.mindvise.de. Advisors are free to decide whether to use this server or choose an alternative platform, which will be communicated to you in advance by e-mail. In this case, the data protection provisions of the chosen provider apply. If you do not wish to use an alternative provider as a video communication tool, you can communicate this by sending an e-mail to the selected consultant in advance. When using the Mindvise-hosted Jitsi Meet instance, personal data such as IP addresses may be collected. This data is used exclusively to enable communication and is not passed on to third parties.

9. Mental Health Assistent (ChatGPT API)

When using the digital mental health assistant, your voluntary free text entries can be transmitted to the OpenAI API for processing. The processing is pseudonymized (without direct name or identity assignment) and exclusively for the provision of the assistant function. The transfer is secured by the conclusion of standard contractual clauses in accordance with Art. 46 GDPR and OpenAI’s participation in the EU-U.S. Data Privacy Framework.

10. Technical and organizational measures (TOMs)

We have implemented the following measures to ensure the protection of your data:

  • Access control: The servers are provided by ISO-certified providers (Netcup, Alfahosting).
  • Access control: Access is only granted via password-protected systems with strict password guidelines.
  • Encryption and data backup: All data transmissions are SSL-encrypted. Data is deleted every 30 days and backed up locally.
  • Forwarding control: Encrypted communication channels (e-mail, SSL) are used.
  • Separation control: Logical separation of test and production data.
  • Integrity control: Regular backups and version controls ensure data integrity.
  • Roles and rights system: Administrative access is restricted; there is no access to personal content.

11 Rights of the data subjects

You have the right, to request information about the personal data stored about you at any time and to request the correction, deletion or restriction of the processing of this data. You also have the right to data portability and the right to object. You can withdraw your consent to the processing of personal data at any time.

12. Right to erasure (“right to be forgotten”)

You have the right to request the deletion of your personal data if:

  • the data is no longer required for the original purpose;
  • You withdraw your consent and there is no other legal basis for processing;
  • You object to the processing and there are no overriding legitimate grounds;
  • the data was processed unlawfully;
  • the deletion is necessary to fulfill a legal obligation.

13. Right to lodge a complaint with the supervisory authority

If you believe that the processing of your data violates the GDPR, you have the right to lodge a complaint with the competent data protection authority:

The Bavarian State Commissioner for Data Protection
P.O. Box 22 12 19, 80502 Munich
E-mail: poststelle@datenschutz-bayern.de

14. Duration of data storage

Personal data is stored on our server for a maximum of 30 days. At the end of this period, the data is deleted and backed up locally. Freelance consultants store the data locally for up to 12 months and then delete it permanently.

15. Data transfer to third parties and third countries

We do not pass on personal data to third parties without your consent. Personal data is only transferred to third countries in the context of using the Mental Health Assistant. In this case, the transfer is secured by OpenAI’s participation in the EU-U.S. Data Privacy Framework and by standard contractual clauses (SCCs) in accordance with Art. 46 GDPR.

16. Cookies and similar technologies

We only use technically necessary cookies on our website to enable you to make optimum use of our services. Analytical or marketing cookies are not used.

17. Automated decision-making including profiling

There is no automated decision-making or profiling within the meaning of Art. 22 GDPR.

18. Further processing for other purposes

Further processing of the personal data collected for other purposes is not planned. Should this become necessary in the future, you will be informed accordingly prior to such further processing.

19. Time of provision of the information

This information is provided to you at the latest at the time of data collection and within one month of the data being collected.

20. Adjustments to this privacy policy

We reserve the right to amend this privacy policy if necessary, to comply with legal requirements or to reflect changes to our services.